I CHOOSE YOU

When choosing your Vitamin G’s, I recommend choosing carefully. (What’s a Vitamin G? Scroll to bottom).  Avoid deliberately taking Vitamins that are competitive or related to Janie Jealousy. Vitamins that control or cause emotional instability should also be avoided. Judgmental, selfish, and self absorbed Vitamins also top the list of NO-NO’S.  I’m hoping these are obvious to all. But let’s be honest, traces of these traits can exist in our most cherished Vitamins. We can have friends that might be more this way or that, but we chose to love them anyway because #nobodyisperfect.

My point is that it’s important to be honest with yourself and come to terms with the shortcomings of your friends. We all rise and fall over the course of close long term relationships, and friendship is no different. I’m not perfect and have not been a perfect friend to any of my cherished and adored Vitamins. Yet they still love me, because they can look past my shortcomings and occasional blunders to see the bigger picture, the whole me. I suggest you evaluate your own friendships through this same lens and see where you net out as a friend, and consider where your friends would rank you.

Surrounding yourself and nurturing friendships that are mutually satisfying is where I suggest spending your energy and limited resources. Chasing after a friend that does not respect your time, give you their time or leaves you feeling empty, is not an essential Vitamin. When time is limited (read: married, stay at home Mom, working Mom with kids, career woman, ailing parents, demanding travel) we can’t be slowed down emotionally by Vitamins that make us feel lousy.

FACT: We don’t have time to be intimate friends with everyone, we have to choose where we can spend our time. Only so many seats at the table. Sure, you can mingle at the cocktail party with lots of people, but when it comes to your table, there are only so many seats.

I’ve found that some of my friendships drifted apart when major life changes happened. Often it’s not personal, just limited bandwidth. A healthy Vitamin will allow you to have that time and space and not become angry or jealous. A good Vitamin knows that the only thing constant in life, is change. True friendships allow you to grow and explore and to come back.

In my experience, some friends lost patience with me when my life changed and my bandwidth expanded in lots of ways and shrunk in others.  They simply couldn’t accept the changes or were not willing to let it play out. Other friends understood and allowed me to grow and explore new paths, wisely knowing that our friendship would endure.  And it did.

Choosing good friends, nurturing good friends and keeping good friends takes effort.  Just like a garden, if you don’t water, prune and tend to it, the garden disappears and a Vitamin loses it’s effectiveness. I titled this article I CHOOSE YOU, because it’s essential for you to consciously choose healthy Vitamins!  I don’t mean popular, or wealthy, or pretty, but good, solid friends that you can count on. The ones you take home to Mom!  The girls that bring out the best in you, celebrates you, listens when you just need to vent, forgives without being asked and carries you when you can’t walk.

Over the next few days, please take some time to think about your chosen friends and let them know just how important they are to your life and happiness. It takes a few moments but will make their day. And think about your friendships that use a lot of your precious resources, but don’t fill your tank.  Might be time to try some new Vitamins.

learn, love and laughter,
Mrs. Funny Honey

vi·ta·min G: 
noun: vitamin G; noun: vitamin G2; noun: vitamin G3:  a of a group of women (or a single woman) that provides critical, life sustaining, soul enhancing, nourishment and support to help you be your best self. These mega-watt vitamins packed with essential nutrients must be handled with care and never taken for granted. Do not store in a cold dark place.  Vitamin G can be found anywhere on planet earth. Vitamin G aids in the prevention of mental illness, alcoholism, depression and fatigue in addition to other serious life threatening ailments.  Vitamin G is known to foster confidence, humility, grace, and kindness. It’s also increases laughter and joy while decreasing stress, blood pressure, cholesterol and utter frustration. Rare high grade strains have been know to perform super human acts of selfless giving and compassion without recognition.   Vitamin G is essential for the absorption and processing of happiness.  Other forms of Vitamin G include (vitamin G2) #girlsquad and (vitamin G3) #bff.